How to Break Free From Binge Eating

How to Break Free From Binge Eating

Filed Under: Binge Eating

9 February 2024 | Written by Xenia Ayiotis

“I’m at rock bottom again and I feel helpless and hopeless.”

I saw that somebody had written this on a Facebook page just a few days ago. It’s a feeling many of us who struggle with binge eating know all too well. The overwhelming shame, guilt, and physical discomfort that come with bingeing can make us feel like we’re stuck in a never-ending cycle of self-destructive behaviour. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Binge eating is a complex issue that affects millions of people all over the world. It’s a behaviour that can be triggered by various factors, such as deprivation, stress, anxiety, depression, or a history of trauma. But regardless of the reasons, it’s essential to understand that binge eating is not a lack of willpower or a character flaw. It’s a condition that requires compassion, understanding and support.

So, why do we binge? There are five main reasons.

1. Emotional Triggers: Often, we use food as a way to cope with difficult emotions such as stress, sadness, or loneliness. Binge eating can provide temporary relief from these feelings, but it also creates a vicious cycle of shame and guilt, leading to more bingeing.

2. Restrictive Eating: Restrictive eating patterns can trigger binge eating. When we deprive ourselves of certain foods or food groups, we may feel a sense of deprivation that can lead to overeating or bingeing.

3. Low Self-Esteem: Poor body image and low sense of self-worth can also lead to binge eating. We may use food as a way to numb our emotions or avoid dealing with underlying issues related to self-worth.

4. Social Pressure: Social pressure to conform to certain body standards can also trigger binge eating. The media’s portrayal of the “ideal” body and the pressure to fit in can lead to dysfunctional eating patterns.

5. Biology: Some people may be predisposed to binge eating due to genetic or hormonal factors. Research has shown that individuals with binge eating disorder have differences in brain chemistry that can affect their appetite regulation and impulse control.

How can we break free from the cycle of binge eating?

Perhaps the idea of breaking completely free of binge eating is a bit ambitious because if eating has been your coping tool for many years, it will most likely remain to a certain degree – especially in times of vulnerability. I like to encourage my clients to aim for reduced binge eating – in frequency and quantity.

1. Mindfulness: Mindful eating is a practice that helps you tune into your body’s hunger and fullness signals. It involves paying attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of food. It also involves being aware of your emotions and your thoughts. This self-awareness coupled with action and self-compassion can prevent binge eating or interrupt it.

2. Challenge Your Thoughts: Negative self-talk and self-criticism often fuels binge eating. Challenge your thoughts and beliefs about food, body image, and self-worth. Be aware of negative self-talk and respond with kindness reminding yourself that thoughts are just thoughts and not necessarily facts.

3. Build a Support System: Seeking help and support from a therapist or coach experienced in binge eating. A therapist or coach can help you identify the underlying triggers or your unmet needs and you can create a personalised plan to address your specific needs. Group support can help you feel less alone in your struggle with binge eating, it’s useful to connect with others who understand what you’re going through.

4. Give Yourself Permission to Cope by Eating: I know this sounds counterintuitive but having a rule around not binge eating in itself can trigger more binge eating. Allowing yourself to binge if you need to and to do it in a conscious way by becoming aware of your triggers, naming them, accepting that you are going to binge to cope and treating yourself kindly afterwards. This reduces the shame. We cannot heal our relationship with food by blaming and shaming ourselves.

5. Add Other Coping Tools to Your Toolbox: In addition to using food to cope with difficult emotions, find additional coping mechanisms that work for you. Walking, journaling, meditation, or spending time in nature are all alternative ways to manage stress and anxiety.

For many people who struggle with binge eating, it can be a scary and isolating experience, but it doesn’t have to be a lifelong struggle. By understanding the underlying reasons for binge eating and seeking support, it’s possible for some people to break free from this cycle, for others to reduce the frequency and reclaim a more peaceful relationship with food.

Remember, you are not alone, and there is always hope. It’s possible to create freedom and peace with food.

Wishing you peace,
Xen

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“When I found Xen I felt defeated and was at a “dieting bottom” I had recently stumbled upon this thing called intuitive eating when trying to find the next “thing” that will work this time. I was skeptical at first because I’ve been told my whole life you need to be a certain size or else others will think you are not doing well in life. Thanks to Xen I have learned it is okay to have a different body than others and learning body positivity. I am more than a number on the scale and truly feel it through the one on one sessions as well as the group one I attended. She has helped me recognize that conditioned “diety thinking” and other behaviors that have not been serving me. It feels so freeing to not have the pressure of the scale any longer.”

– Alyssa Kullman, Simi Valley, CA –

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