The Pursuit of Thinness

The Pursuit of Thinness

7 August 2015 | Written by Xenia Ayiotis

Filed Under: Body Acceptance

I meet so many dynamic and inspiring women in my practice and at my workshops. We talk a lot about our relationship with our bodies, food and eating and a dominant theme that always emerges is the desire to be skinny. The women I see are successful, resourceful, independent, super smart and extraordinarily courageous. And still, the pursuit of skinny seems to overshadow all their other amazing qualities. It’s the one missing ingredient…

Imagine if we as women didn’t define our success or failure by the number on the scale or on the size of our jeans. Imagine if we simply set aside the desire to be thin. Ended the struggle with our weight and body. Imagine waking up and not bashing our bodies as part of our morning ritual before having our coffee. Imagine going to the beach or the mall and not comparing our bodies to those of other women.

Just imagine that feeling of freedom…
The space it would clear up in our heads…
The fullness that would flower in our hearts as we accept parts of our bodies. Imagine the time we would have to pursue things that felt meaningful or the time we could dedicate to fun! Unhindered and staying out of our own way…

My wish is that we graciously give ourselves the gift of peace around our bodies – embracing them as they are; cellulite, tummies and all! Accepting and perhaps loving them as the majestic holders of our life-force. More than anything, may we share this freedom with each other, and most importantly, pass it down to our daughters and girls becoming women.

emotional nutrition

i will tell you my daughter
of your worth
not your beauty
every day. (your beauty is a given. every being is born beautiful).
knowing your worth
can save your life.
raising you on beauty alone
you will be starved.
you will be raw.
you will be weak.
an easy stomach.
always in need of someone telling you how beautiful you are.

– nayyirah waheed –

I know you don’t need to hear this, but this Women’s Month, know that you are worthy, more than enough and exquisitely beautiful as you are.

Have a beautiful day!
Xen

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