Private Coaching

Imagine living a life of freedom and joy around food...

I know the despair that comes from being unhappy with your body and the way you eat.

From the age of 13, my life was a series of diets. I was either on one or off one. I was obsessed with being thinner, but the reality was that I hated my body no matter it’s size. I spent so many years feeling miserable and out of control. And not a moment went by when I wasn’t beating myself up for my “lack of willpower”. Every night I’d go to bed promising that tomorrow would be different. I’d wake up full of hope. I’d believe that this was the day; the day that everything would change... Only to find myself in a full-blown binge by the afternoon. How could it be so difficult to eat less and move more?

I used to believe that restricting foods and dieting was the only answer.

I consulted numerous experts – from doctors administering dangerous pills and injections, to celebrities with the latest eating plans and food rules. The list of futile attempts was endless. Slimming clubs, diets, to psychics and hypnotherapists. On and on this went for over 30 years. I'd obtained 3 degrees, learned to speak 5 languages and even started my own business, so why couldn’t I figure out this eating “thing”?

After decades of food madness, I couldn’t stand another moment.

Something clicked into place. I had to escape the craziness… And I came to the realisation that what I was doing to “fix” my body and my eating was exactly what was keeping me trapped in this desperately painful cycle of guilt and shame.

Solving this problem saved me, and my sanity.

It gave me back my freedom. I took back my power over food rules and dieting. I learnt how to trust my body and myself. I was back in charge of my body and my eating. I found PEACE.

Today, food no longer stresses me out.

Nowadays, I go on holiday and attend social events without worrying about food. I can leave food on my plate without any fuss. I’m able to have a few squares of chocolate without finishing the whole slab (something I never thought I’d be able to do!) Buffets don’t freak me out anymore. Some nights I eat salad for dinner and some nights I eat pizza... And that’s perfectly okay. I’m better equipped to deal with difficult emotions. I’m more accepting of my body and most importantly, I am so much kinder to myself. That inner voice is not so cruel anymore.

Healing my relationship with food changed my life.

So much so, that I decided to leave a successful career in tourism to help women like me who struggle with food and their body image to find peace.

I can help you change your relationship with food too.

You don’t need to struggle anymore. It is possible to make peace with food, eating and your body. You can discover how to live a life of freedom and joy around food and satisfy your deeper hunger for life.

This approach IS for you if you are ready to:

  • Stop dieting and restricting foods
  • Try a completely different approach that will help you make peace with food
  • Stop obsessing about what you weigh and what to eat
  • Learn to eat without guilt
  • Quiet the critical voice about food and your body
  • Take charge of YOU in a gentle, non-judgemental way

This approach is NOT for you:

  • If you want a quick fix
  • If you have an active eating disorder - bulimia nervosa or anorexia nervosa
  • If you are preoccupied with losing weight

Let's Talk!

Book A FREE 30 Minute Mini Session

It’s time to free your mind of all the food noise and think about things that matter!

“After finishing a 30 minute free session with Xen I had so much clarity around what is keeping me stuck in the restrict-binge cycle. I also understand the reasons I binge and eat mindlessly. Definitely worth every minute!”

Jenny, Florida, USA

How will my coaching help you?

  • You'll be expertly guided to living a peaceful relationship with food and your body – without diets, restriction, deprivation and strict exercise plans.
  • I will help you re-discover your inner expert and learn to listen to YOUR body's individual needs.
  • You will learn how to enjoy all types of food, especially your favourites, without dieting and most importantly - without guilt!
  • I'll teach you how to cope with stress and difficult emotions with and without using food.

“I have been very blessed to find Xenia as my Intuitive Eating coach. I knew in reading her bio that she was the one for me out of hundreds on the website. Xen helped me to release beliefs that there are good and bad foods, as well as to learn instant forgiveness of myself when my eating goes out of control. She always brought a more positive perspective to my small-minded thinking in this area of my relationship with food. I always left our sessions uplifted and encouraged. As a result of my work with Xen, I am finding my way with food, using gratitude and Presence to counter act my old beliefs about myself and food.

I am eternally grateful to have worked with Xen and I will continue to call on her when I need her loving support.”

Grace, Arizona, USA

During your coaching sessions, you will:

  • Be taught practical tools for dealing with binge eating, overeating and mindless eating
  • Discover why restricting food and dieting does not and never will work
  • Find out why you eat when you are not hungry
  • Identify your triggers for overeating and binge eating
  • Learn how to be more mindful around food and increase your awareness of your patterns and habits when it comes to eating
  • Learn how to eat the foods you love without feeling guilty and make eating enjoyable again
  • Discover how to tune into your hunger signals and to stop eating when you’re full
  • Learn how to deal with cravings and how to cope with difficult emotions
  • Identify how to meet your needs better through nurturing self-care practices
  • Develop your capacity for self-acceptance and self-compassion
  • Discover how to find joy in do-able, mindful movement
  • Reconnect with what matters most to you in life

“Working with Xen was a game changer for me. After working together for a few months my relationship with food radically changed. I no longer felt like a failure. I now have the tools to nourish my body with foods that feel good in my body. I don’t feel guilty about eating cake or chocolate, I also don’t overeat cake and chocolate. I no longer feel the need to exercise to compensate for my eating. I feel much more free around eating and I am more accepting of my body. Xen has a nonjudgmental and compassionate approach to coaching and really supports you in the process.”

Rachel, Dublin, Ireland

Let's Talk!

Book A FREE 30 Minute Mini Session

It’s time to free your mind of all the food noise and think about things that matter!

How does my coaching work?

  • We meet on Skype or Zoom once a week or every other week.
  • Together we create a vision for your health, your life and your relationship with food and your body.
  • We set goals focusing on the process more than the outcome.
  • We create strategies to overcome the obstacles, triggers and challenges standing in your way.
  • We work together in a trusting relationship, in a safe and supportive environment to help you make peace with food.

“I felt hopeless and helpless in my daily struggle with mindless eating for many years. Then I found Xen which is exactly what I needed! My decision to work with her helped me to finally repair my relationship with food. It's changing my life for the better, one day at a time. Now I have control over the food, instead of it having control over me, which is the way it should be. I highly recommend Xen to anyone who has a desire to overcome similar food struggles. Xen, thank you from the bottom of my heart! ”

Karen, Colorado, USA

Hi, I'm Xen.

I’m Xenia Ayiotis. I am a certified Intuitive Eating Counsellor and Mindful Eating Coach (MB-EAT). I am a licensed Be Body Positive Facilitator through The Body Positive. I am also a certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School.

My background is a Masters degree in languages. I worked in the tourism industry for over 20 years as a tour guide and tour operator organising tours to Southern Africa. I changed careers in 2011 after I worked through my eating challenges.

For almost 30 years I struggled with my own food and body issues, I was a chronic dieter, struggled with severe restriction followed by binge eating, and negative body image. I was fortunate enough to find Intuitive Eating and Mindfulness that have helped me transform my relationship with food and my body and my life! For this reason, this work is very meaningful to me. I have seen and experienced how recovering from a dysfunctional relationship with food can transform every aspect of your life.

My purpose is to help people who are struggling with food and body image challenges find peace with food, eating and their bodies and live a life of freedom. I feel privileged and grateful to share this work with people. I offer private coaching sessions, workshops, the 8 Week “Food Freedom” group programme and I offer retreats.

“This is the answer for those of you that struggle with food and all that surrounds it. Xenia said that I could make peace with food and it seemed at the time like an impossible dream. Turns out it isn’t. I recommend Xen and the mindful eating / intuitive eating approach unreservedly. Thank you Xen. My rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐”

Michelle, Johannesburg, South Africa

Let's Talk!

Book A FREE 30 Minute Mini Session

It’s time to free your mind of all the food noise and think about things that matter!