How To Have A Guilt-Free Easter Holiday
26 March 2024 | Written by Xenia Ayiotis
Over the past few weeks, I have spent many coaching sessions talking about Cadbury’s mini Easter eggs. Clients have been sharing how difficult it is to stop eating them! I totally get it.
I have lived the chocolate wars. Allow me to show you how this unfolds…
Coach to Client: “What did you say to yourself before eating the chocolate”?
I feel like chocolate.
I shouldn’t have chocolate.
Chocolate’s bad.
But I really want some.
Okay… but I can only have ONE.
Client has one chocolate Easter egg very fast because it “doesn’t count”.
Hmmm that was nice. I want another one.
Oh… but I really shouldn’t.
I don’t need it.
It’s unnecessary.
Ok then…ONE more and that’s it.
Client has a second Easter egg with not much awareness because of the judgement around eating more chocolate.
I really want another one.
You’ve already had two!
It’s enough. No more!
A brief pause.
Client eats chocolates reactively, not really paying attention to how the chocolate tastes and without tuning into how the body feels.
F*£@ it! Who cares! I’m having another one….
………………….
Well, now I’ve blown it.
I’m just going to finish the packet and get rid of it.
Sound familiar?
I spent almost 30 years eating most things this way.
But it doesn’t have to be like this, there is another way to eat chocolate.
How do we eat chocolate Easter eggs with permission and pleasure?
It goes something like this…
I feel like some chocolate.
Eat chocolate with no imposed limit.
Pay attention to the flavours, smoothness and texture.
Hmmm, this is good, I’d like some more.
Eat more chocolate. Enjoy every bite.
Do I feel like more?
Hmm, maybe a bit more and then I’m done.
Stop eating chocolate feeling satisfied and content.
No judgement. No guilt. No blame. No shame.
Happily move onto another activity.
I specially recorded a chocolate eating meditation for you, it’s a taste of eating chocolate mindfully and joyfully.
Wishing all who celebrate, a Happy Easter!
All my best,
Xen
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