Make Peace With Your Body

10 February 2016 | Written by Xenia Ayiotis

Filed Under: Body Acceptance

Since the start of the year, I see so many of my clients struggling with judging their bodies, overeating, and body acceptance. What I notice is that the more focused we are on weight loss as the only goal, the more dysfunction we create in our relationship with food and with our bodies.

Body love can be a difficult thing to attain but the steps to loving our bodies are neutrality, acceptance, gratitude and then love. Since February is the month of love (and every month should be!!) here is a peace treaty you can make with your beautiful body!

Dear Body,

I declare peace!

We’ve been at war for long enough. It’s tiring and it’s not doing either of us any good. Enough is enough. I hear you sighing – you probably don’t believe me. I get it…

Actions speak louder than words, so here’s what I promise to do:

  1. I will stop criticising you.
  2. I will stop blaming and shaming you, dearest Body.
  3. When I forget 1 and 2 and then notice, I will stop immediately and apologise.
  4. I will remember what you do for me: how my experience of life is through you!
  5. I will remember and be grateful that you allow me to see, to feel, to hear, to think, to taste, to smell, to move…  Every experience is through you.
  6. I will practice asking you what you need, dear Body.
    Is it rest?
    Is it food?
    Is it something to drink?
    Do you need to move or to stretch?
  7. I will not purposely make you go hungry.
  8. I will do my best to honour your fullness and not overfill you so that you are uncomfortable.
  9. I will do my best to nourish you so that you can function well.
  10. I will not compare you, dear unique Body, to other Bodies.
  11. When I forget 10 and notice,  I will stop immediately and apologise.
  12. I will disengage from media that promotes diets and extreme exercise.
  13. Instead, I will engage with media that promotes body acceptance and weight diversity.
  14. I will not get into social chatter about diets and weight loss.
  15. When I forget 14 and notice, I’ll politely remove myself, change the subject or be brazen and explain to people why I don’t talk about stuff like that any more.
  16. I will stop believing you’re the cause of my happiness or unhappiness.
  17. I will befriend you and work with you as a loving companion, rather than try to force or control you.
  18. When I forget any or all of these promises, I promise to recommit, because I want peace with myself, with you and with food.

As a gift to you, feel free to download the Peace Treaty here.

Here’s to body love!

Tired of overeating and feeling out of control around food? Dieting and restriction hasn’t worked for you? Do you want to find peace and freedom around food? Book a free Online Intro Session with me or join my “Food Freedom” 8 Week Programme (available in Jo’burg & Pretoria).

You can also sign up for my free Mindful Eating “Slightly Different” Advent Calendar to enjoy over the festive season.

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